Zoe is a Cry Baby!

No baby deserves to die or be disabled for life because he or she cries!  Understanding the devastation that results when an adult violently shakes a baby, and knowing it is 100% avoidable... compels me to take action!  Once in awhile there is an opportunity for learning and sharing that eases a bit of the angst I carry against such injustice and abuse.  I can only do a little, but I can do something!

Shaken Baby Syndrome (SBS) is one of the most severe forms of child abuse, caused by the violent shaking of an infant (or toddler) with or without impact against an object. Shaken Baby Syndrome usually results from a parent or caregiver shaking a baby because the baby would not stop crying. Approximately ¼ (some reports state 1/3) of the victims die as a result of direct brain injuries. Thousands of victims who survive suffer permanent neurological damage such as blindness, developmental delays, mental retardation, seizures, physical disabilities, paralysis, and/or brain damage.

Since crying is the primary reason that infants are shaken, it is important to inform parents how to deal with the frustrations of a crying baby as well as to equip them with effective parenting and coping strategies. Educated parents are equipped to be advocates for their child’s safety.  They are encouraged to share the information with others who may care for their child such as relatives, friends, and childcare providers. One report indicates that 1/3 of the perpetrators of SBS are unrelated; a boyfriend of the child’s mother.

In 2009 I was invited to participate in a statewide work-group through the Ohio Department of Health to develop a Shaken Baby Syndrome prevention plan for Ohio based on a best practice model from Mark S. Dias, MD (Pediatrics, April, 2005).  It was such an honor for me to participate. (I certainly learned more than I contributed).  Since that time I have hoped to find a way to contribute to the prevention of SBS.  Thanks to some wonderful Friends of CHLOE we have an awesome tool to do so.  We will quite literally be able impact parents and caregivers that will in turn SAVE THE LIVES OF BABIES!   This month we purchased a doll, “Zoe,” that produces an electronic simulation of brain damage that results from the violent shaking of infants or toddlers!

Starting in August we plan to provide SBS prevention demonstrations in our Chloe’s Moms Connection parenting classes and throughout our community.  If your school or social service agency would like for us to bring Zoe and a presentation about Shaken Baby Syndrome... please contact me to schedule.  I’m also seeking volunteers to be trained then facilitate the SBS presentations for CHLOE.  (connie@chloeinc.org)

PS.  Our baby doll was named Zoe because Zoe means Life!

 

FAQ... addressed

CHLOE, Inc. is a 501 C (3) tax exempt charitable organization, founded in 1999 by Connie Nafziger, RN.  Having a professional focus on Maternal & Child Health and Community nursing, she set out to establish an organization committed to making health and life skill education accessible to diverse communities.  Since 2009 the focus has been to empower young, single moms to become self-sufficient, resilient and adaptable; averting and breaking cycles of poverty.

CHLOE was born of a heart committed to serving others in a way that honors God, above all.  This work is grounded in nurturing others in a holistic and grace filled manner.  We educate, train and journey along side young women mindful of the core longings of all persons; to be loved, to have purpose, to be understood, to be secure, and to belong.

Each person served is treated with respect and neither coerced nor required to accept the tenants of faith that constitute the infra-structure of this work.   They are instead offered a safe place to experience grace and be in relationship with  women who model virtue and are passionate about helping others reach their best potential.

Have a question about  CHLOE?  Feel free to contact us. 

Dust Off Your Sneakers!

Join Team CHLOE!

5K Run and 1Mile Fun Walk 

at the Columbus Zoo!

May 21, 2011

There will be a lot of  charities there,  making for a fun and festive day!

If you live in the Columbus, OH area be a runner or walker with Team CHLOE.

If you live a distance, sponsor a runner or walker!

Here is what to do:

1. Click here to open the Walk 4 Faith website; under Main Menu click on ‘register to walk/run’   ($20.)... follow the link
2. Select CHLOE, Inc as the ministry you will be supporting; complete the other required fields
3. Set up a Pledge Page according to directions (see Main Menu)
4. Invite your friends, sorority, business associates, grandma, heart throb, and stylist to walk/run with you... get them registered!
5. Invite your friends, family and fan club to sponsor you. 
6. Prepare for a fun and rewarding event!   

Free Parking, Free Zoo pass (for participant), T shirt, & goodies bag

Keep me posted on your recruiting results... I’d love to hear how it is coming along 

We have established priorities for the use of funds raised through this event to enhance our Chloe’s Moms Connection program: 

~ Health Education Teaching models i.e.: Shaken Baby simulation doll ... is an effective,though expensive, tool in demonstrating the devastating physiological impact of shaking a baby or young child. This single piece of equipment when used in training or community event settings will quite literally save lives!

~ Books and Educational toys for the tots in our program 

~ Cold Weather Bundles...Coats, mittens, & boots for the families we serve, as needed for next winter’s blast.

~ Class supplies...interactive  supplies and equipment

As we are just getting our feet wet in the fund raising pool we are thankful for such an opportunity as this!  We are grateful as well for your interest and support as we break cycles of poverty by equipping young single moms!

Such a Time as This

This being Valentines Day and all, I was planning to write a sweet and clever post, perhaps wax a bit sentimental. Then on Saturday while reading the Columbus Dispatch I was drawn to an article : ‘Teens must be aware there are risks to dating’ by Cheryl Pentella, Co-President of the National Council of Jewish Women, Columbus Section. I was reminded; February is National Teen Dating and Violence Awareness and Prevention Month. The notion to be clever or sentimental seemed less appealing, at such a time as this.
“• 1 in 5 teens in a relationship they termed serious reported being hit, slapped or pushed
• 1 in 3 girls who have been in a serious relationship say they’ve been concerned about being physically hurt by a partner.
• 1 in 3 high-school or college students will become a victim of an abusive dating relationship by the time they graduate.
• Nearly 1 in 4 teen girls reported pressure to go further sexually than she wanted as a result of peer pressure.”

I have accepted a calling on my life to serve young women caught in the throws of parenting, before they are adequately equipped to do so. As a community health nurse, I observed the brokenness in lives, of scores who had been victimized by others and/ or their own naive beliefs about love and intimacy. I am a trainer for advocates for victims of abuse. I have studied these issues earnestly. The outlook is not encouraging! Our young people are being duped in to believing power, control, and sex rule! Now is the time to move forward with compassion, courage, and truth.
I found quite a few websites that offer facts, insights and informed opinions for both adults and teens. I’m providing links to a few of them. Click on the titles to learn more:

Dispatch Article (referenced above)
Women’s Policy, Inc.
Family Education
Stay Teen

Sink or Swim

I am young; almost a woman... dangling my feet in a shallow stream. My hormones are surging. Boys are intriguing. My media idols make love and romance seem worth doing whatever it takes to find this elusive thing called ‘love’. I’m casting a line... I’ll reel in true love, right?

I’m a young woman...wading in the lake. The ‘boyfriend’ makes me feel special; loved. My friends are fickle... but he will never be. The time we spend together is the best part of my week. Our affection has turned physical; we are caught up in stealing private time. Everybody’s doing it...right?

I’m young woman in over my head... The physical relationship has become the end all... the time for friends and family has become less important... No one can possibly understand the love we share. He will love me forever...right?

Pregnant? Me? What a scary, awesome, puky, overwhelming river I’ve found myself in. Cool, right? We’ll do this together, right? My perfect little family. We’ll live happily ever after ....right?

There is whitewater in sight. I didn’t know life could change so much, so quickly! Up a creek, without a paddle, that’s me! I didn’t expect to face these currents of emotion and physical changes alone. I mean, I’m not really alone...’alone’... but this is my body, my future, my heart trawling...just trying to snag a chance at happiness. No matter how scared I get, I’ll never let em see me sweat! I won’t drown, right?

The water is swirling around me! I thought I could swim, but this current is taking me under! No sleep, flabby body, crying baby, condescending family, poopy diapers, mood swings, fatigue; I’m really scared. I thought my baby would love me more than anything... I’m not so sure that’s how it is. I thought my boyfriend was the real and forever thing. Some sweet thing in skinny jeans has caught his eye. I think he is gone for good. This is a bad dream, right?

The current has pulled me under. I come up for air, gasping, flailing; there is no help in sight. Even if I can dog paddle to that island just in sight... can I survive there; alone, broke, weary, hopeless, a single mom? It isn’t supposed to be like this, right?

He threw me a life preserver...he promised love and care...what a man! What a sham! My worst days of wading, swimming, even flailing were better than this! I’m no longer my own. He says I owe him my life. What kind of life is this? There is no hope. There is no joy. There is only turbulence. I live in fear, violence is on my doorstep. I will surely drown.

The water is cold and murky, the seaweed has tangled around me...I’m bound without hope or help. Life has choked me into submission. I’m too weak to fight and to frail to beat the evil that pummels me. I’m drowning, for sure. Life will be different for my kids, right?

Most young women survive the turbulence of adolescence and reach maturity unscathed. Some find the love they are seeking; an unplanned pregnancy is embraced and life goes on. Many, too many, are less fortunate. An astounding number succumb to the tyranny of urgent longings and un-tethered lust. They are looking for love in all the wrong places. For those who have plunged in and find themselves in over their head we extend a hand... an offer to come along side... to help them gain their bearings as we stand with them. Young single moms need a community to embrace them. They need mature women to come alongside them, live life with them, model healthy choices and teach them life skills. Young single moms love their babies; they long to be good parents; they simply need coaching, skill and confidence.

We won’t reach every floundering young single mom, but those we engage will have opportunity to become healthy, advocates for themselves and their children as they work toward self-sufficiency. They will learn that they are valuable, capable, and worthy women.
Go to our website to find ways to engage in this work...or give me a call.

614-477-1426

Moving Forward

When I left my position as a Community Health Nurse, having served a multitude of young mothers and their infants/children, I knew the course was set for the rest of my career. I determined to establish a not-for-profit organization able to equip others with health and life skill education. CHLOE, Inc (community health & life skills opportunities & education) was born.
Ten years and many projects later, the focus of CHLOE, Inc has narrowed to equipping young single moms with the education and life skills they need to break cycles of poverty . Our ultimate goal is to establish a self-sufficiency home for young moms needing a safe place to live for a couple of years while they are working on educational, relational, and career milestones. Such a huge vision takes a firm foundation; we work daily to make sure it is indeed sound and enduring as we long to have our ‘place’ and program operational . In the meantime our outreach program is ready to launch! Chloe’s Moms Connection is designed to engage 12 young single moms for 12 months. Parenting and Life Skill classes will be held on Saturday afternoons, the second and fourth week of each month. We are delighted with the Partners in Parenting Education curriculum and excited about sharing life enriching skills that will be both fun and esteem building. Children and infants involved will have access to ongoing developmental screening. Our Mentors and capable childcare workers will make the experience even better for the moms we serve. There are no participant fees for the program .
After hearing of our plan a church offered us classroom and child care space! We are especially grateful as the Sharon Woods Blvd. neighborhood of Columbus, OH is exactly where we hope to have our self-sufficiency home and the 43229 zip code area serve as the hub for our work! Thank you Pastor Dreisbach and Sharon Woods Baptist Church family!
This is a season of joyful anticipation as we begin to offer guidance and resources to young single moms and their children.

I've Been Thinking....

Since early in the process of bringing into focus the vision for Chloe’s Place (a self-sufficiency home for young single moms and their children) I’ve had a snap shot in my mind of just how it might look. It has a warm, comfy, living area with space for each little family to l live in community with the other little families; all living and working together toward common goals. The living space, the one I see when I ponder it all, does not look like a house from the 50’s (Think Leave it to Beaver or Father Knows Best). It does not look like the house I live in; eclectic furnishings, with lingering ‘country/traditional’ themes. I picture a modern space, open, with lots of space for children to play. It has wood floors and big furniture and an awesome kitchen for the moms to gather round as they learn to cook (Think classy loft).

There is another unique twist in my vision of Chloe’s Place. The living space, sits a floor above a bustling business... (Think coffee shop/cafe). The ‘business’ is a part of the whole package. It is managed and operated by people committed to the self-sufficiency vision. It serves several important functions:
≠ Provides the primary funding stream for CHLOE, Inc. residential and outreach programs, promoting organizational self-sufficiency.
≠ Provides hands on job skills training for residents of Chloe’s Place equipping them toward self-sufficiency.
≠ Provides the community with an excellent product and service. (Think food, drink, meeting space)
≠ Provides an opportunity to equip coffee growers in a Third World Country with resources toward their self-sufficiency.

I’ve pondered the whole ‘micro-enterprise’ potential, long before I knew it was becoming a trend for not for profit organizations in the U.S. It makes complete sense to me! We know that a residential program with educational and job skills programming is not an inexpensive venture. While individual and corporate donations will always play a vital role in the work, it seems reasonable to work toward having a substantial amount of the budget earned from within; self-sufficiency modeled from the core of the organization. Grant funds have long been the 'brass ring' for non profits. Over the past 10 years I have watched that funding stream get increasingly difficult to access. For example, in September we submitted a proposal for $ 8,000.00 to fund a CHLOE Outreach program that is ready to launch. A total amount of $200,000.00 available to be divided between 20 organizations... each receiving up to $10,000.00. I received word from the funding organization that they received 1,000 proposals requesting a total of $8 million! We are waiting to hear if our proposal will be awarded funds.

I recently met Tom Thompson, founder/director of The Refuge, a ministry to men in Vinton County, OH. Their operation is 80% funded by the catering business they established! Tom shared that the money is only a portion of the benefit that developing the catering business has afforded. Today I was reading about Q’s Cafe in Seattle and Ebenezer’s Coffee House in D.C.; I love their vision and successful implementation!

I no longer pine for the ‘miracle’ of instant embodiment of the vision. I’m most grateful for what I am learning, how I am growing spiritually and professionally in this venture. I am at peace with the pace of development and the realization that what CHLOE, Inc and Chloe’s Place is to do requires a firm, broad foundation that is laid brick by brick, day by day. I believe that if I accomplish what is reasonable and responsible each day, that before you know it you will be receiving an invitation to join in the grand opening celebration...and perhaps even have a cup o’ Joe with us, at our place!

How I Spent My Summer....

I can't believe how long it has been since I have posted an update! ... So sorry to keep you in the dark on the progress of CHLOE, Inc and Chloe's Place. I have been contentedly busy over the past several months.

Late in the Spring we had a bit of a set back due to the departure of one of our key leaders. That happens from time to time. I've learned to embrace and enjoy each contribution of time and talent for how ever long someone has to invest in our work!

Over the summer I've enjoyed working with two women who have come on board to help move us to the 'next step'. They, like everyone else, are busy, busy, busy people! I so appreciate their investment of time and value their unique and valuable skills!

One highlight for me has been to start looking at houses for Chloe's Place. I realize that we do not have funds in place, but it is important to have an idea of the style, neighborhood, and price to be able to make wise plans and apply for funding. We have made some decisions that will direct our focus when the time is right!

I feel confident that we are on track for accomplishing what needs to be done as we continue to dream of getting Chloe's Place up and running. The program pieces and policies are intact. The next step is to advance the work by securing funds for operational expenses and the house. We are looking at grants and refining our approach to fund raising. This is not in-expensive work! So far all of us are volunteering our time. It will be such a delight to be able to pay salaries one day!

We are working out the details,(and submitting a grant proposal for funding) for a really exciting Outreach program. We are calling it "Moms Connections". We will enroll 12 young single moms willing to commit to meeting twice a month for 1 year. Once a month we will host a Parenting Class and once a month a Life Skill class. We will provide child care, help with transportation and serve a light meal at each meeting. Each participant will have a Mentor that will spend time with her regularly. I am really excited about the potential for this program. We will need to enlist and train Mentors, get donations of food and other materials, and find just the right place to hold the classes (preferably on the bus line). I'm interviewing women to co-teach the classes with me. Receiving the grant fund, or not, will impact the plan, so not all decisions can be made just yet. If you live in the NE Columbus,OH area and have connections with a great location we could use for the classes... give me a call!

When I began unfolding the vision of establishing a self-sufficiency home for young single moms I knew it was a significant undertaking... I didn't understand all it would require! I expected things pop up left and right and the work to begin at record speed. It is now 2 years in to the venture. I realize what an incredible blessing the slow and steady pace has been. I have been challenged on every front with decisions and considerations that were new to me. I have learned the value of patience and gained confidence in trusting beyond my own abilities. I'm not sure when the awesome day of celebrating the opening of Chloe's Place will happen. I am sure that when that day comes I will not regret the months spent seeking the best plan and design.

There is a new energy present in the work, a steady stream of people affirming the plan and looking for their place to be involved. I'm ready to take the Next Step... will you join me?

Cha Ching!

Who would have thought it? The cost of offering a desperately needed, well planned and executed program is staggering!

I decided early on that programs and services through CHLOE, Inc would be offered as we had funds to pay as we go. We plan carefully, acquire the needed resources, and then proceed.

When we began the quest, to establish a self-sufficiency home, we had around $10,000.00 in our CHLOE account. Most of the funds we have available have been donated by individuals. We recently received a gift from a local church for $1200.00 that is being applied to the expenses of our new GED Mentoring program.

In 2009 we determined that we must focus our efforts on programing primary to achieving our mission and not wait passively for the opportunity and funds to purchase and renovate property. The GED Mentoring program quickly rose to the top of the list! It is, after all, our mission to equip young single moms with tools to break their personal cycle of poverty. Few people question that education is a ‘key’ tool. Creative planning and willing volunteers have impacted the cost; we are comfortable with the investment required to see our GED Pilot Project through.
Curriculum and materials $900.00 (consumable goods)
Test fees for 5 students $250.00
Miscellaneous expenses... yet to be determined

Prior to initiating 'direct services' it was imperative for us to consider risk management issues and to purchase appropriate liability insurance.
General Liability Policy...$3,000.00 (covers 1 year/all mentoring/tutoring programs)

While the GED Mentoring pilot gets off the ground, we are looking forward to our next program component, Parenting Classes. As funds are available this program will be offered by late summer of 2010. Our vision to have Chloe’s Place (residential program) within the year has not dimmed.

So what is our plan to raise and maintain funds for the ongoing work and expansion of CHLOE, Inc.? We have often looked to an established self-sufficiency home for guidance and patterns. While our financial dynamics may evolve very differently, their financial report offers insight. Hope House of Colorado disclosed the following information in their 2009 Annual Report:
INCOME
In kind 5%
Individual contributions 30%
Corporate gifts 12%
Events 41%
Grants 10%
Other 3%

Our perspective:

In kind: We are identifying and recruiting professionals willing to donate legal, media presence, administrative and other services
Individual: Through personal contact, Internet opportunities, and printed materials we are raising awareness of the plight of young single moms. We believe there are more than adequate resources in the hands of caring people willing and able to invest in this important work. Our job is to articulate clearly and invite response. With confidence in our vision and in our broad and diverse community, we request support. We steer away from fund-raising strategies that employ manipulation or imposed guilt... I personally shun those tactics and the organizations that use them!
Corporate We benefit from the investment of other organizations, social networks, and businesses and look forward to expanding that support base.
Events are popular and worthwhile for Non Profits. Expect to hear of our first major fund-raising event in the fall!
Grant funds are less available in our current economy. We are anticipating favorable evidence of our work through the GED pilot, to make us eligible to apply those targeting our focus. We are currently preparing a proposal for a $250,000.00 grant to be awarded based on online votes received to support the proposal! Be watching for an invitation to vote and to spread the invitation to your cyber-circle of friends and colleagues.
Other: While several of the funding sources must focus on large sums of money needed for properties, programs, salaries, and insurance costs, etc. we are creating some fun projects intended to raise smaller amounts to cover the cost of specific projects. Our first 'project fund-raiser' is in the works:
We are conducting an Amateur Photography Contest and a Children's Art Contest.
The winning entries in each category will grace the pages of our first CHLOE
Calendars. We are also thrilled that awesome local photographer, Erin Collins will
supply a collection of Amazing Animal Photos for a third calendar. We plan to
begin marketing them in October of 2010.

In conclusion, I am increasingly attentive to fund-raising discussions, promotions, and strategies. I believe that open honest discussion about the plight of young single moms and our cost to equip and release them, empowered to be self-sufficient, is necessary. I believe that transparent and prudent financial planning is required and must be communicated clearly. You are invited to consider our work and to join us in whatever way you are able, we need you.

Bless the Babies

I have been thinking about moms and young babies today. There are at least eight in my circle of friends and family. I’ve been privileged to wait with happy expectation for the arrival of each of these little ones. I’ve shopped for gifts that I hoped would be helpful or entertaining. I have waited as ‘due dates’ approach for the joyful news that they have ‘arrived’, healthy and whole. Some I have cradled in my arms in their early weeks of life. Some I have ‘met’ through animated reports of their perfection by grandparents or parents. Extraordinary and plentiful photo albums traverse cyberspace to be enjoyed by friends far and near. These little ones have well appointed nurseries, drawers bursting with adorable outfits, stashes of diapers, and toys laying in wait for developmental readiness. More striking than the accouterments are their parents; well equipped to care for and nurture their babies. Oh that all infants would be welcomed as these, wee ones, have been welcomed.

I have been thinking about moms and babies today. There were many born just this week and last, and more will come next week … to young single moms. Some have been greeted with great joy and embraced by a caring extended family. Others, too many, have been greeted by just their mom, full of love, but saddled with fear, ignorance, poverty, and isolation. There are no fanciful decorations adorning the cramped quarters they call home. A meager supply of outfits, diapers and formula have been laid back. The father has already skipped out, or is on the move.

I have been thinking about moms and babies today. Some are born into a dazzling array of well equipped families; some are born into poverty that permeates all facets of life. The disparities are breathtaking.

There are multiple unique differences between the parents of the babies in paragraphs A & B. Some of the differences are clearly generational issues; some can be linked to environmental disproportion, while others stem from their capacity for making wise choices. A glaring difference is educational achievement. As we are able to equip young single moms with their GED and encourage them toward college or vocational school, we will begin to help break their cycle of poverty. Not only will this change the life path for each mom, but for her children, and their children… picture the rings around a single pebble tossed in a clear lake… the ‘ripple effect’ in this scenario is a beautiful thing.

Think of a little one in your circle. Think of a little one in the grasp of poverty. We can make a difference, will you help? For more information about our work see www.chloeinc.org

Teamwork

Last week we were invited to set up a display table and meet and greet participants at a networking event… Connection With Intention was an important event within the networking community of Central Ohio. Renee Belbeck,founder/president of National Association of W.O.M.E.N., invited us to be the beneficiary charity of the event. Erin, our Program Director was invited to give a brief speech about Chloe’s Place.

We met some great people! Many were interested in learning more about the work of Chloe’s Place. Quite a few signed up to keep up with our progress. Erin did a great job of introducing Chloe’s Place and making our purpose clear….in a 3 minute presentation!

I learned something about myself. I have known that I am wired pretty close to the introvert end of the spectrum. Being an introvert has often seemed a burden as I hone my leadership skills. Extroverts intrigue me, inspire me and leave my head spinning! As an introvert, having the opportunity to meet and greet 150 people that I do not know, at a place I have never been, in a setting geared for the outgoing entrepreneurs is not exactly in the center of my comfort zone! I learned that being a good team player is a desirable quality for an introvert. Erin’s effervescent, bubbly presence was delightfully inviting to many who came by our table or listened to her presentation. I enjoyed watching her relate to strangers in such a warm and winsome way. My presence was different, but rewarding as well. Among others, I connected with a young woman who was on her way to a movie, and stopped by to see what all the activity was about. As I shared with her, in my way, I learned that she is a young single mom, with goals and aspirations to break the cycle of poverty in her life. She was elated to find out that what she is seeking is what we are offering! This young woman will become our first GED student! How cool is it that our unique qualities and design can work together to make such a positive impact!

The 'To Do' List

My intent for this blog is to provide insight into the behind the scenes thoughts, tasks, and processes involved in structuring a comprehensive self-sufficiency program. This particular pursuit began in November of 2008 (16 months ago); the eight months prior to that I spent researching how to best help break the cycle of poverty, in the lives of young single moms. It was then I determined a self-sufficiency home (model) best satisfied the quest.

I am elated to hold the vision for what Chloe’s Place will become and to be making steady progress toward the goal. We are first initiating our GED Mentoring Project, to be launched soon

Take a peek inside our ‘To Do’ list that has guided our recent work:

♥ Research the need for the proposed project
♥ Research current standards for providing GED tutoring
♥ Review curriculum options
♥ Determine barriers common to young women desiring to earn a GED
♥ Establish a plan to reduce barriers for potential students
♥ Establish time-lines for decisions, plans, promotion, and implementation
♥ Recruit a capable Program Director (willing to volunteer her services)
♥ Determine the best format for tutoring sessions
♥ Secure a location for tutoring sessions
♥ Establish program budget guidelines
♥ Recruit volunteer Mentors
♥ Present and get approval from Board of Directors for funding GED pilot
project
♥ Communicate with multiple community agencies; seeking student referrals
♥ Establish guidelines and policy for volunteers involved in the project
♥ Establish guidelines and policy for students involved in the project
♥ Establish desired ‘outcomes’ to measure success of the project.
♥ Design an ‘outcome’ measurement tool
♥ Work with Insurance Broker to secure General Liability coverage as well as
insurance to address student transportation issues.
♥ Promote project through website and monthly E-Note… to gain community support
(This required a new website design)
♥ Communicate with other programs offering GED programs to learn from their
experience
♥ Address potential safety issues for students and staff

We are now ready to recruit and engage students!

You are probably not surprised to learn that none of these tasks are simple or have quick resolve. Several issues have been addressed then found to be impractical, too costly, or not to the standard we desire… back to the drawing board, we’ve gone. I am most grateful to have the support and encouragement of our Leadership Team and especially indebted to Erin Whinnery, our awesome Program Director!

What an incredible learning experience for me! I’ve even learned a little about myself, especially my expectations! I’ve grown in to a new level of contentment with the rate of our progress. I am confident that it is the steady constant driving toward the goal, not the speed that makes our success sure.

Being right...

Ever since the arrest of the church group from Idaho, caught taking children illegally from Haiti, the question of doing what’s ‘right’ has been discussed through a vast array of perceptions. Even if I assume, and I do, ( simply because I want to) that the zealous Americans thought they were ‘saving’ the children, doing the ‘right’ thing by providing a better life for them,they were still dead wrong! This does not appear to be Civil Disobedience for a higher cause, but failure to respect and adhere to law and practice, in place to protect the rights of children. That kind of ill-equipped fervor almost always ends badly. Their folly makes it more difficult for others to make a positive impact.

As the founder and exec. director of CHLOE, Inc/Chloe’s Place the responsibility to act wisely, within the boundaries of law and best practice, weighs heavy on me. It has pushed me to spend hours scrolling through legal mandates and wade through research that I must stretch to understand. I have read books on topics I had never considered before this work began. My quest continues; one new insight spurs me on to investigate another… and so it goes.

I am always surprised and a bit perplexed when I hear of new not- for- profits launching programs, soliciting support, and celebrating success while the ink is still wet on their business plan. “Do they have a business plan,” I wonder? It is not that I don’t wish them success, I just wonder how they do it! I hope their haste does not precipitate new laws that make serving vulnerable people even harder than it is now! Or... discourage generous people from supporting other worthwhile efforts.

In all things there is need for balance. My folly may be that ‘doing it right’ gets in the way of ‘doing it’. I hope not. Each brick we have laid in the foundation of our organization is intended to make it strong and sustainable for the long haul… long after I have a say in the matter!

Next month, we will start our GED pilot project. To the best of my knowledge and ability we have a good foundation laid for a successful outcome. If not, I am pretty sure someone will bring it to my attention!

Introducing Erin!

I am delighted to introduce you to our Chloe's Place... Program Director!

Erin Whinnery has spent her life as an observer of people, patterns and possibilities. Her strengths lie in research and development and problem solving; specifically through the application of principles. Her passion is truth. Her vision is to encourage individuals to embrace the pain necessary to fulfill their destinies. She engages the world with intentionality, convinced that every human being has the making of greatness.

Erin believes that success comes when one embraces the reality of rights through personal responsibility. She understands that relationships are the conduit for achievement. And while remaining single-focused, she continually strives to never be narrow-minded.

“I chose Chloe’s Place for my efforts because of a desire to give out of what I’ve received. I was raised with a strong, solid and blessed foundation. I believe one should build off of such a foundation, not just admire it.

“Chloe’s Place is committed to equipping and releasing young moms so they in turn can equip and release their children. Isn’t that beautiful?

“Chloe’s Place isn’t another welfare system. It’s an equipping station; providing women with the resources they need to break free of the bondage of poverty in all its facets—physical, social, emotional and spiritual.

“Chloe’s Place provides me with an opportunity to put my beliefs in action and contribute to the prosperity of future generations. I know of no greater calling after the equipping of my own children.”

Just You...Right?

I have been thinking of a comment a colleague made, a few years back. She said, " I hear you talk a lot about CHLOE, but it is really 'just you' right?" I've wondered over time just how many people share that opinion. There are actually quite a few people who have made integral investments in leadership, service and expertise to get us to this apex. I did a tally in my head and thought of 40 in a quick count. Some have been on board from the start. Some signed on for a single project or service. One group joined us specifically to learn from us, then launched their own project. Some have tested the waters then jumped ship without warning; leaving me in a quandary. Every non-profit program director I've met with shares the anguish of the wax and wane of volunteer rosters. I am learning that i simply can't take it personally when people abandon the cause...but it is difficult.

We are starting the New Year with a great group of committed volunteers! During 2010 I expect to see a multi-fold increase in people who join forces to help break the cycle of poverty for young single moms and their children. Our friends at Hope House of Colorado keep 250 volunteers busy... another great example of their excellent leadership!

So how many people do we need to make our GED pilot project successful? We need 5- motivated students, 2-facilitators, 5-mentors, child care providers, transporters, and lunch preparers/servers. Potentially we will offer 36 class sessions for 5 young women (including child care, transportation, and lunch). While this pilot project is our current focus we continue to need volunteers to help with other aspects of business, promotion, and technology.

At this point in our journey we are not adequately funded to pay even our professional staff, but that day will come! I am exceedingly grateful for those who are willing to get on board at this juncture.

Merry Christmas!

My all time favorite Christmas song...

Mary did you know that your baby boy would one day walk on water?
Mary did you know that your baby boy would save our sons and daughters?
Did you know that your baby boy has come to make you new?
This child that you delivered will soon deliver you.

Mary did you know that your baby would give sight to a blind man?
Mary did you know that your baby boy would calm a storm with his hand?

Did you know that your baby boy has walked where angels trod?
And when you kiss your little baby, you have kissed the face of God.

Oh, Mary did you know....
Mark Lowery

Sometimes

Sometimes I get really perplexed...

• When circumstances disappoint.
• With red tape, complex laws, and legal codes
• When I read that there are 8x more animal shelters in our community than for human victims of abuse.
• When my heart knows for sure...but words fail me
• That good work must have substantial funds to operate

Sometimes I am simply overjoyed...

• When I meet someone whose heart is bent and priorities set toward justice and service
  
• When my young teen granddaughter expresses interest in Chloe's Place.
• When we receive thoughtful notes or gifts toward the work.
• When someone joins in our work.
• When I envision Chloe's Place... fully operational
  

Sometimes I get really sad...

• When people do not value our work
• When I allow impatience to raise doubt
• When I focus on how quickly time passes, how much work is yet ahead, and aging.

Sometimes I get really angry...

• When seeing another demeaned or threatened
• At dishonesty... abuse... and hypocrisy
  
• When reading an account of yet another woman whose report of abuse was ignored.
• In competing for limited grant funds; knowing how the funds are actually used by some 'esteemed' organizations.

Sometimes I get really hopeful...

• When I learn of new technology that will help to communicate our needs and services.
• When I ponder inspired writings
• When I learn of other services for vulnerable, fragile moms and children
• When I recall those who have promised to pray for Chloe's Place everyday.
• When I remember that Chloe's Place is not mine alone
  

Thanksgiving

Thank You, Thank You, Generous God!
Thank You, thank You, thank You, generous God!
You have injected life with joy, thus we know laughter.
You have dabbed creation with color, thus we enjoy beauty.
You have whistled a divine tune into the rhythm of life, thus we hear music.
You have filled our minds with questions, thus we appreciate mystery.
You have entered our hearts with compassion, thus we experience faith.
Thank You, God, Thank You. Thank You! -
C. Welton Gaddy

Just Do It!

There are two predominant encouragements clinging to the nooks and crannies of my mind these days. The first, a reflection from leaders of Hope House of Colorado; their recent newsletter stated, "Our guiding question this year has been, What are you doing with what God has already given you". The second was spoken regarding the ministry of Chloe's Place. "Just do it", was the message I received from a ministry leader I admire.

I have spent the past 16 months pouring my heart and resources into establishing a ministry that will serve young single moms and their children; equipping fragile families with what they need to grow strong and independent. The time invested has allowed the development of an abundance of documents including forms, program components, and training materials. We have also broadened our support base. While great progress has been made, it seemed like little could be done until we had secured our house...then these two encouragements came...as unexpected gifts.

WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH WHAT GOD HAS ALREADY GIVEN YOU?
We have been given:
Passion for facilitating health and wholeness in young moms
Years of experience in a variety of leadership and caring roles
Equipment adequate to set up a small office and classroom
A modest bank account for ministry
Curriculum for some life skill courses
Ever growing number of friends of the ministry

JUST DO IT!...This is what we can do now:
The foundation is laid, strong and ready... keep building
The search is underway for just the right house...keep searching
Plans are underway to set up our Learning Center at a local church or community
building. (it can be moved into the house or to a nearby place in the future)

It seems within the realm of possibility to launch a pilot of our GED Learning Lab in early 2010. The initial idea is to invite 8-10 young single moms (as referred by community organizations) to enroll in our program. We are researching what we need in order to provide leadership, mentors, materials, transportation, lunch, and child care.

EXPECTED BENEFITS:
We will be able to collect experience and hone expertise in specific program
areas.
We may bolster confidence in those who are waiting in the wings to support our
work.
We will be able to gather needed 'measurable outcomes' necessary for grant
applications.
We will equip a number of young single moms toward a better future, some who
may not qualify for our future residential program.

October Ponderings

My recent choice in reading material has directed my focus to the plight of women and children across the world. The book Three Cups of Tea…offers the account of Greg Mortenson’s passion for the children of Pakistan and Afghanistan. His astounding humanitarian efforts to educate children, especially girls, is remarkable. My current read, Uwem Akpan’s Say Your’re One Of Them is a collection of five stories that portray the extremes of human depravity inflicted on children living in Africa, wrenches my gut and brings ache to my soul.

So what does that have to do with Chloe’s Place? What does the tragic dilemma of women and children thousands of miles away have to do with our passion to establish a self-sufficiency home for young single moms and their children?

While reading these accounts my mind often flipped back to families I served in Columbus, Ohio working as a community health nurse. I recall having to knock a mass of roaches from a counter, so I could place my baby scale. I remember stepping on slippery, nasty carpet and trying to see how long I could hold my breath… so as not to inhale the stench of animal and human waste embedded in carpet and furniture. I recoil as recall walking into a home ravaged by violence, the mom trembling in fear, the man macho and full of himself...cordial to me. (Later he or another like him murdered that young mom of three). Another sorrowful the memory is of holding a near lifeless infant in my arms… ignorance and neglect having taken him to the brink.

I am in no way trying to diminish the plight of those living in absolute poverty in inhospitable areas of the world . Lord have mercy. Bless the ones bringing light to the dark and destitute places. My crisis of heart is knowing unimaginable hardship and dissoluteness is ordinary in our land; in my community! At least in this region schools, churches, hospitals, clinics, libraries abound. There are, of course, ebbs and flows of funding to meet the need, but over all and comparitively speaking, we are privileged.

Strip away geography, physical features, and cultural traditions, we ‘humans’ are more alike than different. Abraham Maslow’s influential paper writtien in 1943 demonstrates five fundamental human needs and their hierarchical nature.
• Physiological needs are to do with the maintenance of the human body. If our basic physical needs are unmet, then little else matters.
• Safety needs have to do with freedom from hurt, injury, danger, or risk.
• Belonging needs are emotionally based relationships… friends, family, intimacy.
• Esteem needs is the normal human desire to be accepted and valued by others.
• Self-actualization needs when met allow us to ‘become what we are capable of becoming', which would be our greatest achievement.

I cannot climb a mountain in Khablu to bring books and classrooms to the children there. If one day I have the privilege to travel to Africa, it will be for a brief mission venture or for pleasure; to accompany my daughter and her husband to welcome their adopted baby from Ethiopia. I can, and do, offer financial gifts, as I am able, to support the work in far away places. I admire those doing the hard work of day to day, engagement, reconciliation, and justice seeking.

Meanwhile on the home front…
Through the work of caring persons supporting and staffing Chloe’s Place we will be able to provide an environment that will:
• Provide for ‘physical needs’ of young moms and their children. Moms will be equipped with knowledge to be effective advocates for healthy families .
• Keep moms and their children ‘safe’. Expecting that most of the moms we serve will have experienced some form of abuse, ( 25% of all girls do…25% of abused girls become pregnant as teens ) we will operate somewhat like a safe-house. Moms will gain knowledge in child development and parenting skills that will promote safety in the lives of their children.
• The families residing at Chloe’s Place will indeed experience ‘belonging’ in a structured, supportive, caring community.
• Critical spirits and judgmental attitudes are not welcome at Chloe’s Place. The moms and kids will experience ‘acceptance’. They will know they are valued and will learn to extend grace to others whose journey has been different.
• ‘Self actualization’ is the icing on the cake. When our moms complete their GED, enroll in college, or become prepared for a positive career, it is then we will celebrate with them as they inch closer to becoming what they are capable of becoming.

The one issue that is not clearly addressed in the Maslow work is that value of faith. Chloe’s Place has at its heart a desire to conduct business, engage in relationships, and serve others as demonstrated by Jesus in scriptural accounts. Our families will be exposed to Christian literature and liturgy. They are not mandated to vow allegiance to any particular tradition of faith, only to explore the mercy, grace and holistic implications of Christian faith.

Do you see the potential in this? It is not just one mom or one child that will benefit… there will be entire families impacted. The cycle of poverty and all of its dastardly implications will be broken in the lives of some; in the lives of generations for others!

So be it.